The Power of Forgiveness

Forgiveness remains one of the most challenging acts we are called upon to make ~ yet it can truly transform us at our very core. One of the main reasons we believe forgiveness appears to be so difficult is because we have a misconception that it’s about the other person. Are you ready for the Truth? Forgiveness is the one time you can honestly say, “It’s all about me!”

Researchers at the Mayo Clinic report that harboring negative feelings and thoughts or holding a grudge can contribute to heart disease, increased blood pressure, muscle tension, and other ailments — and can trigger mental health problems as well (i.e., depression and addictive behaviors). Louis Hay, in her best-seller, Heal Your Body, reports that the cause of most diseases in the body are criticism, anger, resentment, and guilt. When we hold on to anger or resentment, we are giving our power away. Eric Butterworth says, “It is a Cosmic Truth that you are tied to the person or thing you hate.” What if we used that same energy and channeled it toward good? Duke Ellington said, “I simply used the energy it took to pout and wrote the blues!” The act of forgiveness releases great healing and creative powers.

Here is an amazing YOUtube video that captures the essence of the power of forgiveness:

What if we could create a habit of forgiveness ? Just imagine ~ not just moving from Bitter to Better, but bypassing Bitter altogether!! How can we do it? Here’s a formula you can use every day!!

RECOGNIZE IT: You can’t fix something if you don’t know it’s broken! Every day, do an “emotional scan” to discover any thoughts you are harboring that run counter to Truth. These are any thoughts that see anything other than the Christ in someone. Own the thought, because you need to own it before you can deal with it. So, recognize the feeling within you, and move beyond the rationalizations and justifications, and see it for what it is.

RELEASE IT: Let us be clear, we are not asking you to forget it. That is unrealistic. But we CAN forgive and release. This is the power of a choice you make!

You can verbalize it: I forgive you, (name) and release you to your highest good! You may even want to write that statement down several times, until you actually believe it. You may need to perform a symbolic act of release: write it out and bury it; do a burning bowl; write a letter and shred it.

Release does not mean you condone the act, nor that you have to be the person’s friend. It has nothing to do with whether they even accept your forgiveness  or even if you tell them. It could even involve a person who has already made their transition. The act of forgiveness simply means you release the attachment you have to what has happened.

REFRAME YOUR THINKING: From this point on, when you find a resentment or anger beginning to build, deal with it immediately. One way to reframe is this: As soon as  you hear yourself make a judgment, such as “He should not have done that to me” immediately follow up with the words, “… and I …” then complete with a positive, Truth-based action, such as “…and I choose to let it go.” Another example:  “She shouldn’t act that way … and I forgive her and behold her Christ within.” And another:  “My parents should have done a better job … and I know they did the best they could with what they knew at the time!”

This brings you back to a focus of your power to choose your reaction, and remember no one has power over you unless you give it to them!

You can transform your entire life when you practice the amazing power of forgiveness, and make it your decision to move from Bitter to Better — right here and now!


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